yes he was. but… ugh, this is all so complicated, i don’t even know where to begin. i’ll try…
(correct me if i’m wrong on any of these dates). okay so, to my knowledge, Frank proposed to Jamia in May 2006 and married her sometime after Gerard got married in Sep 2007. I’m not even sure when exactly he married her because according to wiki he married her in Feb 2007 but i know for a fact that thats wrong, and a lot of people seem to think, myself included until recently, that Frank got married before Gerard, but that’s also wrong. so anyways, Pro Rev started in July 2007 and that’s when we saw things starting to get very physical between F and G. things had gotten physical before but not quite on the same level as they did during PR.
My THEORY is that Frank proposed to Jamia because he knew that Gerard was never gonna come out and admit that he was in love with a man. dont get me wrong, i know Frank loves Jamia and i would never say that he doesn’t because i can see it. but i can also see that the love he and Gerard shared was so passionate and there’s no way that they were just friends. i would never in a million years grind my crotch against my friends head or touch their genitals, okay? that would just be weird and awkward and i’d probably be too embarrassed to look at them ever again.
the stuff they did during PR was definietly not just a friendly gesture kind of thing.
so anyways, maybe seeing Frank get engaged to Jamia was like a kick up the arse for Gerard. maybe he saw that he was losing Frank and therefore tried to do everything he could to stop it. maybe he admitted to Frank that he loved him and wanted to be with him. maybe he promised Frank that he would admit it to the world one day, but asked for some time to sort everything out. so Frank agreed and Gerard broke off his engagement with Eliza sometime around the start of PR or just before, i’m not sure of the exact date, thinking that him and Frank were going to be together. and maybe frank believed him. hey, maybe Gerard even believed himself at the time. so, therefore, Frank starts letting G in and starts getting his hopes up, thinking that they would be together publically one day soon. so he let himself get close to Gerard, like we saw during PR, because Gerard probably told him that he was without a doubt going to be with him and he wasn’t going to hide it this time. But then i’m guessing G told F that he had to end things with Jamia and i think this is where things started to go wrong. i think that F probably said that he’d break up with Jamia when Gerard admits he’s gay/bi, whatever. but of course, it’s Gerard, he was never actually gonna admit it and i think Frank knew that deep down, and that’s why he wasn’t willing to break things off with Jamia. so Gerard gets mad/jealous and starts dating Lindsey as a way of saying, “hey look, if you can have Jamia i can have someone too. now you can see how much it hurts” kind of thing, because i’m sorry but i think Gerard would be kind of petty like that and meh, i guess he had a reason to be. so, he starts dating Lynz and Frank starts becoming more and more physical with Gerard on stage, probably as a way of saying “you’re mine and dont you forget that”. but then somewhere down the line things obviously go wrong behind closed doors; maybe when Frank starts realising more and more that Gerard is never gonna admit their relationship to anyone. so that’s when we see the fight between them on stage. and then, just 12 days later, Gerard got married to lynz out of fucking nowhere after only dating her for a couple of months. Frank, GERARD’S BEST FRIEND, didnt even know that they were getting married until an hour before it happened. His exact words when talking about the wedding were, “Oh, it was very surprising…i got sprung with that maybe an hour before.” and then he says, very unconvincingly, “It was really- it was really sweet.” And if you listen to him when he says that, his voice gets all high-pitched and it sounds like he doesn’t really believe what he’s saying or he at least doesn’t wanna be saying it. and then when he’s asked if he’ll be the next one to get married he replies with, “umm… yeah! unless anyone else runs away and gets married.” so basically he viewed Gerard getting married as him ‘running away’. and might i add that he doesn’t exactly sound happy when talking about it. the way he says “unless anyone else runs away and gets married” sounds kinda… i dunno… fed up maybe? i can’t think of the right word to describe it but his tone of voice just sounds kinda off to me. here, have a listen for yourself, draw your own conclusions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fEofUU2AdLY
Well i think that’s just about it.
F and G’s relationship is so complicated and i guess we’ll never know what really went on between them. so this is just my thoughts on what i think happened. if anyone read anything they don’t like here then i’m sorry but i really don’t care. this is my theory and i’m just putting it out there. i’m not saying you should believe me and i’m not saying that Frank doesn’t love Jamia or that Gerard doesn’t love Lynz. this is love we’re talking about here. it’s much more complicated than black and white. who says you can only be in love with one person at a time? because i’m afraid it doesn’t always work like that.
so anon, i hope i answered your question? thank you for asking it :)
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